MOM GUILT MOMENT

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20 (1)BALANCING WORK/MOM LIFE IS NO JOKE.  This post is going to be super raw and real.  This year I’m going to do my best at sharing all the real stuff with you.  It goes SO beyond what you guys are seeing.  I’m very open with you all, but of course I’m not going to share everything.  

BALANCING WORK LIFE/ MOM LIFE IS THE MOST CHALLENGING THING I’VE EVER DONE.  TODAY IS ONE OF THOSE DAYS I JUST FEEL LIKE I’M NOT BEING A PRESENT MOM.  Some days I feel like I’ve got it all handled aka super mom.   YES I TIME BLOCK, which has been so helpful, and yes it’s very efficient way to get it done, but some days come crashing down on me.  Those are the days when Oaks need me the most, then I have deadlines and I’m all stressed out.  It’s just very hard to do both.  Being a mom is a lot of work. It’s a full time job.   You all know this!

I LOVE HIM SO MUCH IT HURTS.  Today, is just one of those days I feel extremely overwhelmed and I feel like I’m not there for him, or being present enough.   

I WANT TO DO BOTH.  Thats the thing, I’m very very grateful for everything I have.  I love what I do so much, but I love being a mom more of course.  I’ve found ways to do both, but like I said, it’s one of those days!  Mom guilt is a real thing.  We can be supermom all week long, and then when it comes time to leave them overnight for a girls night, or leave them even longer, you feel like a bad mom.  Then you start to get anxiety of something bad happening to them while you’re gone.  My lord, talk about HEAD TRIP.  Do you guys feel me?  

BEING A MOM IS A HEAD TRIP.   RIGHT??   None of us know what the hell we’re doing. We think we do, and then some other problem arrises and your basically back to square one.    We’re all just doing the best we know how, and learn how along this motherhood journey/crazy ride.  As Oaks grows older the more fun it keeps getting, but at the same time… it gets a little more challenging.  As he learns, grows and starts to understand things more.   Understanding they love sugar, but you have to teach them that it isn’t good for you all the time, and then they get upset and throw tantrums… I mean the list goes on and on.   Don’t hit people, don’t throw that cup full of water, don’t flush toys down the toilet etc, etc, etc…!

Maybe all those things are boys things too.  Every child is different! SO PS NEVER JUDGE A MOM.  Anyways, what I wanted this to be about is sharing my story, and the hard things that go through my head everyday.  I know you guys feel me and I want you to know that it goes so beyond just pretty pictures.  Oaks is shitting his pants daily, I’ve got shit on my hands, he throws everything in our house,  I’m in my work out/sweats most days, (sometimes they might have crusty oatmeal on them.. you never know), no make up, and running around trying to keep things clean (I put that on myself because I’m a clean freak), cook dinner, get my work done, all while trying to be there and watch Oaks grow up.  MAN.  SHITS HARD, but my hell don’t we love them so much?  I cry all the time because the love I feel hurts so much.  

Being a mom IS THE BEST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME.  It’s helped me find my purpose in life, it’s taught me so many life lessons, patience, time management, being a good wife, cooking/experimenting yummy healthy meals etc.   I love sharing it all with you, and being there for you too.  The community that we’ve all created here is incredible!

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TOPSHOP JEANS I LOVE- HERE, HERE, HERE, HERE

MY TANK / PLAID BUTTON UP / BOOTS 

OAKS CLOTHES- ALL ZARA

Love you all!  Have a good day!

xox,

SARA LYNN

3 WAYS TO GET OVER ANXIETY

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ANXIETY.  We all get it, but dealing with it is the hard part.  There are different levels of anxiety.  Some days I can manage it very easily and some days, well, I have a full on anxiety attack.  Which is RARE for me, but ever since becoming a mom, I all the sudden have tons of anxiety.  I used to be fine, or wouldn’t really notice.  Maybe all the stresses in life have all came crashing down after I had him, realizing that I was responsible to create a healthy happy life for him.  It’s a lot right? HAHA Phew.  Okay, so here are 3 simple ways I have learned to deal with my anxiety, that I hope can help you with yours.  These are things that are very easy to do.

  1. TURN OFF YOUR PHONE.   Tell your friends, family you need a break and shutting off your phone for a few hours, or just shut it off!   Get off social media for sure, but texts, emails and all that are a huge distraction and can intensify my anxiety.
  2. HEADSPACE.  Its an app you download to your phone.  He guides you through 10 minutes.  Listen to what he says and do the breathing exercises and you’ll feel so much better.  It truly helps!  Thats another blog post btw that I need to get into.
  3. GET OUTSIDE.  Go for a walk in the fresh air!  Leaving your phone behind.  If its to cold where you live, then head to the gym, or call up a friend who you trust and are close to, and talk with them through it. 

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SUNGLASSES / ALSO LOVE HERE, HERE ,HERE

BOOTIES 

What are your ways you deal with anxiety?  Share below!

Have a great day!

xox,

SARA LYNN