REASONS WHY I’M SAYING GOODBYE TO MOMMY GUILT

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I think mom guilt is something you have to learn to get over.  I spent so many countless hours having this guilt of doing things for myself.   Even if that meant leaving for 1 hour to go to the gym.   I had this gut feeling every time I left the house that no one could do a good of a job as me and that I needed to be the one always with them to protect them.  I say them, but this was when I just had Oaks.   

Then I had Liv and it intensified.  SO bad.  The anxiety was bad, but I finally came to the realization after multiples breakdowns and panic attacks that I needed help.   I couldn’t do the things that I love, all while being there ALL THE TIME for my kids.   I finally surrendered and asked for help.   In order for me to show up for them I need to fill up my cup, feed my soul with what I desire.  There is nothing selfish about it, and there is no reason any mom should ever feel guilty for wanting that and not just wanting to stay at home all day with her kids.  There is no wrong or right way.  Each family has their own unique ways of raising their kids. 

Here are reasons why I’m leaving mom guilt out there door this year.

  1. FILL UP MY CUP FIRST.  Like I said, in order for me to show up fully present for my kids and my ultimate best self is I need to do the things that will help me do that FIRST.  That can look different for each mom.  Mine is building this brand and having this community, then having alone time, meditating, working out, having a moment to myself before the kids wake,  working on my work etc.  
  2. BEING SELFISH WILL HELP ME BECOME SELFLESS.  Doing the things that feed my soul, will help me be able to be my best self to my kids, therefore will feed their souls and help teach them that they can do whatever they put their mind to.  Being a present mom is my ultimate goal.
  3. FULLY BEING PRESENT.  When I do these things, it will help me be WITH them when I’m actually around them, verses trying to catch up on work, glued to my computer or phone.  This isn’t something I want to teach them, BUT I’m not perfect with this, but finding help and getting time to myself to do these things so I can be fully present and not feel overwhelmed with all the tasks I need/want to get done.  
  4. DON’T TRY TO BE PERFECT.  I’m sure you know this, but there is no such thing as a perfect plan or perfect situation or perfect parent.  Choose the life that best fits you and your family.   Don’t stress about what sally is doing and do you.  I ultimately have put my blinders on and honing in on what works for my family this year.

These things have fueled me up to be present with whatever I’m doing, whether I’m at home being a house wife and full time mom, to working outside of the house.  I want to be where I am instead of resisting where I am.   These things in turn have not made me feel so guilty for leaving the house to get my work done, or reaching out to ask for help.  I’m the best mom, wife, and creative when I can prioritize whats important.  

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MY RIDE OR DIE SKINCARE

Gift Guides (MY RIDE OR DIES SKINCARE)

Gift Guides (MY RIDE OR DIES SKINCARE)

If there were ever any products you buy because of a post, these should be it!  They’re my ride or die.  I can’t live without them … although I am living without the peel pads and retinol right now due to nursing, but I’ll get right back on that train once I’m done.  Do yourself a favor and treat yourself to some great skin this year.  You deserve it!

If you had to splurge on 1-2 of these products I would tell you peel pads and retinol.  If it were only one, peel pads.  If you’re nursing Vitamin c serum.  Get all if can afford it because they’re life changing.  

ROSE HIP OIL: I put this on every night as a last step to my skincare routine.  Just to give my skin some more moisture, especially in these dry months.  I love the oils and I love the hydration it gives.  I also use this before I use the gua sha tool if I’m wanting to give myself a little facial massage. It has vitamin A in it so I swear has made my skin brighter.  I talk more about it Rose Hip Oil Benefits in that post. 

LANIEGE SLEEPING LIP MASK:  I’m sure you’ve heard about this.  I had to see what the rage was, and it definitely lived up to its hype for me.  I don’t just use it on night, I use it as a lip gloss too. I’m telling you, its bomb.

DR DENNIS GROSS EXFOLIATING MOISTURIZER: Holy crap, this stuff is where its at.  Every time I use it I do a little dance because it just gets it.  It’s so hydrating and feels so good as you apply it.  I love how it makes my skin look after applying.  I’ve used SO many moisturizers, and this moisturizer is something I ALWAYS go back to.  It’s my ride or die.

ELTA MD FOAMING CLEANSER:  I love a cleanser that feels like your skin is clean ,but not too much.  I don’t want to be stripped dry.  This does just that.  It foams up as you cleanse and it’s a little slice of heaven.  I only cleanse my face every night.  I just rinse with water in the mornings.  I don’t want to clean off the products from the night before.  The only time you can find me cleansing in the morning is if I worked out beforehand.

ELTA MD TINTED SUNSCREEN:  This is a gem.  Again, I’ve tried so many sunscreens and this one is my top.  Just hydrating enough, but not too much that you feel oily.  It actually is great for acne prone skin, it’ll clear you up!  

DR DENNIS GROSS RETINOL:  when I’m using this product I can see a difference within just a week.  My skin is brighter and clear, diminished wrinkles too.  This is something I don’t use while I’m pregnant or nursing though.  So if you’re nursing like me, its recommended to wait until you’re done nursing!

DR DENNIS GROSS VITAMIN C SERUM:  If you can’t tell by now, Dr Dennis Gross is my top favorite skincare brand.  This stuff is a gem.  You can use it while nursing and pregnant too because it’s vitamin c.  This will give your skin life!  I use it in the mornings after I rinse with water.

DR DENNIS GROSS PEEL PADS: last but not least, peel pads!  Oh, I swear by these.  I know a lot of you use these too, I tell everyone with skin issues about them, literally everyone.  When I was using this with the retinol combo, my skin was on point!  Pores shrunk, diminished wrinkles, skin clear and bright.  I looked like I drank so much water and slept a lot haha.  I got a lot of compliments when I was using those.  I would tell everyone about that.  These are something I don’t use right now either because of nursing.