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All that matters is right here in these photos.  Family is everything!  

For those that don’t know, I’m a step mom of 2, and a mom of 1.  Halle is 15 and Tyson is 17.  Tyson currently lives with us. 

I just want to open the conversation of being a step mom.  Who else is a step mom out there?

They’ve never lived with us full time, so that’s why I haven’t ever felt like it was my place to give you “step mom advice”.   It’s never felt right to me to put it out there and give you the advice you’re looking for.  But lately, now that one lives with us full time, I feel like I can finally start talking about it more.  Another reason why I haven’t said much is because I’ve only been a step mom for 6 years.  Relationships take time to build and some things I like to keep to myself that I don’t want to share with everyone.

Becoming a step mom was challenging at first.  I’ve had many people in my life who are step parents that gave me the advice at the VERY beginning and said “Don’t ever try and be their mother.  Always be their friend.”  Which rang so true because I never wanted them to feel like I was trying to step in and be the parent.  I wanted them to get to know me on their time, so they would be comfortable about me being around their dad.

I was only 21.  They were 8 and 10, so from the get go I’ve always acted like their friend.   They have a mom, so they don’t need me to be their mom.  This is why I believe it’s always been very easy to handle.  They are very good kids and have amazing parents.  I love their mom.  Always be civil for the kids.  Don’t be bitter or jealous.  It’s not right for the kids involved.  It’s so important to all get along, and even get together for the kids when you can.  

The reason I feel more comfortable about talking about this is because my parents both got married in the last few years, so I now can see the place that Halle and Tyson were in.  Granted, I’m a lot older and moved out, but I can only imagine how younger kids feel when their parents get remarried and have to get used to someone else that isn’t their parent. 

Put yourself in their shoes, and try not to overstep your boundaries.  Relationships take time to build.  My advice would be to take time to get to know the kids.  Take them out to lunch or shopping, find out what activities they like and take them to do that, so you have time to bond with them on your own.   Be their friend and someone they can trust.  Telling them what to do, isn’t my thing– they have parents to do that.  If they live in your home, things are different and you’re aloud to tell them to follow your rules.  But like I said before, they’ve never lived with me until now.  Tyson who is 17 has lived with us for almost a year now.  I don’t tell him what to do, but I do expect him to do his chores and be respectful.  But would my outlook be a little different if they lived with us full time? Yes probably.  But this is my personal situation.

I had most of you ask me to write a post about this, and one thing that was asked a lot was, how do you make time for you and TJ?  That is easy for us because we don’t have them full time, but just like any relationship you need to take time to spend time with each other once a week. Designate a night that works for both of you, find a sitter and go out and be with each other, talk with each other, put your phones away and just be you two again.  

This is a subject that I feel I can talk about now.  I wasn’t comfortable speaking about it until now.  Some things are untold and should be kept private.  These are just MY personal feelings and advice.  Everyones situation is different, but I wanted to share mine with you and what I’ve taken away and learned from it.  You don’t have to take my advice.  I’m not telling anyone what to do, and I never am telling anyone what to do when I share posts.  I’m simply sharing my experience and tips.  You can read my advice and apply it, or not.  Completely up to you!  None of this is right or wrong.  Everyone’s family and their situation is different.  

But Oaks just loves them SO much.  It’s so much fun to watch them together!  He especially has really loved Tyson since he’s around more and babysits him.

With all this said, who has a similar situation? Are any of you step parents? Comment below!  Lets chat.

Have a good weekend!




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  Processed with VSCO with 4 preset Processed with VSCO with 4 preset I have been so excited to share with you the wall art I have created in my living room with Framebridge I created a few of my favorite photos into a cute colleague on my wall.  If you haven’t used framebridge before for any framing, or wall art in your home you need to!  They do all the work for you.  Just send them your favorite photos and choose what size you want, what frame and color you want (and they have tons!) and they put the photo in a frame in the most beautiful clean way.   I chose one style of frame on my wall art and it is called “Irvine”  and the largest size is 28×28, then 26×20, the next is 23×23, then 19×15, .  The two smaller sizes are 13×11, and 13×13The great thing about it is I still have room for more photos to add to my colleague.  I will definitely be doing that soon. The way I hung them is I laid them on my floor deciding how I wanted them displayed on my wall, and then hung them on my wall one by one.  You always want them to be eye level, and never to high on the wall.  As you can see they start about 10 inches above my couch.  Framebridge also has alot of hanging tips. I got you guys hooked up on 10% off your order!  So if you are looking to spice up your home, then GET ON IT.  Obsessed with the way this has brightened up my living room area.  Just use the code “LOVEBYLYNN10” at checkout.  This code also doesn’t expire for 3 months, so you have plenty of time to get the creativity of yours going!  

Hope you have a great weekend!  Leave a comment below if you have any questions at all.  Will be posting videos of it on my SnapChat today @lovebylynn, so make sure to follow along!