heres the thing.  It’s funny that as moms we think society (other moms) are judging us HARDCORE when there are “rules” to follow; such as weaning from the bottle at a certain age, weaning from the binki at a certain age, weaning from the boob at a certain age.  Or taking away a blankey or stuffed animal at a certain age.  Etc… etc… you get it.

Listen, what I’ve learned these last two years about motherhood is there ARE no rules.  There are no “certain ages” you have to wean or take things away.  Your rules are YOUR rules.  YOU know as a mom, when it’s the right time to do something.  You know as a mom when it’s the right time to wean, sleep train, eat this, don’t eat that etc..  

It’s funny, about a month ago I was SO afraid to let Oaks have the bottle when I was filming on my IG stories, because I was afraid of what people might think since he’s 22 months (today actually) but I’m like …ya know what? IM THE MOM. I decide whats right for him.  And if the bottle sucking is going to sooth him & be the babysitter while I take some breaths, then SO BE IT.  Listen, I know as much as the next mom, how shitty it’s going to be weaning.  But that doesn’t mean you have to do it when someone else says you do.   

Every child is different.  Oaks weaned himself from the boob.  Some kids just stop.  Some kids are probably a flipping nightmare weaning.  Sleep training was a nightmare for about 3 days and now its bliss forever.  Sometimes he’s got a few hiccups in the road, but he sleeps like a dream and has since he was 6 months old.  

I know there are moms, who think “wow, it’s time to wean… don’t you think?”  because I was totally so judgmental about stuff like that... BEFORE I HAD OAKS (Crazy right?) who am I to judge haha.  We all do it, but when stop doing that and let people live their lives, do what’s right for them, then we feel better.   It’s not up to someone else how you raise your child.  

Point is.  WE all think differently, we all parent differently.  Lets all be nice to each other.  After all, MOM KNOWS BEST 🙂

On another note, it’s great to get advice and listen to what other moms do,  in fact, I love hearing what other moms do! It doesn’t mean you have to follow what someone else does.   at the end of the day YOU DO YOU. You do what feels right to YOU, and not someone else’s rulebook of motherhood.  The whole point of this post is to help get out there is no one is perfect. There isn’t just 1 thing that works for all children & families.  



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Anyways, switching lanes here.  Oaks is 22 months.  I CANNOT BELIEVE IT.  he’s starting to feel less like a baby now and way more toddler.  I am having hard time accepting that.   He’s got the cutest personality, and loves to throw EVERYTHING.   He gets so much excitement from watching it fall, he holds his arms up funny like he’s twitching haha.  You know what I’m talking about if you watch my IG.    He loves all balls.  I am going to do a ball theme for his birthday!   He says “maaa”, “dirt”, “kiii”, “daaaa”, “shiii” (yep, like shit), “baaa” ,”hiii” and lots and lots of jibbers like he thinks he’s talking clear.  He loves watching movies lately.  The Good Dinosaur (always) Moana, and the new fav is Smurfs.  Loves puppy pals, and bubble guppies.  Loves bubbles and pushing things around.

 Loves water & throwing rocks in the water.  Loves reading and runs really really fast.  Throws like a pro, and makes the silliest faces ever.   He’s getting a little sassy, but so sweet.  Very well natured and been the best baby for us!  We love him SOOOO much.  Happy 22 months to my sweet boy!  

Have a great day! 






OH, THE STRUGGLE OF BALANCING IT ALL.  It’s taken me a while to figure out what works for my little guy and I, and what doesn’t.  We’re on a great routine by staying active and healthy.  Keeping up with Oaks, working from home, finding the time for date nights, nights out with friends, family time… the list goes on.    But before any of those, it’s my FIRST priority to stay active and healthy, so I can keep up with all of life and it’s fun and hard times!  It’s a choice of ours to make it a MUST. 





I’m finally at a great place in my life, physically, emotionally and mentally.  So I wanted to share with you 5 things I do that keep me that way, day in and day out.  OH, and you also know that I have to have the cutest gear while doing on the things!  Old Navy’s activewear line is on POINT. Fitting, cute, comfortable and MAJOR bonus–affordable 🙂

  1. WORKING OUT.  Must get my work out in first thing in the morning.  Sets up my day just right, and gives me energy to stay strong and focused throughout the day.  When I do it first thing in the morning, it puts me in that flow state all day, where I just keep getting things done!  Click HERE to watch the work outs I do!  You can also download LOVE HIIT BODY GUIDE for my daily work outs.  And some days, I will just take Oaks to the park, find a bench and do box jumps, high knees, crunches and jump squats!






  1. AFTER WORK OUT SMOOTHIE.  When I start out with a nutritious smoothie, that also sets up my day to stay on track and always reach for the healthy option.  I already chose great so why not keep choosing healthy, so you can end your day on a good note.  When I do this, I have energy and brain power to focus and keep up with all of the motherhood roles!  And another HUGE bonus on the shake is Oaks loves it too.  But I add in banana for him.


  • 1 cup water
  • 5 ice cubes
  • 2 handfuls of greens (I chose spinach & kale)
  • 1/2 cup blueberries
  • 1 tbsp all natural peanut butter
  • 1 tbsp chia seed
  • 1 scoop chocolate planet based protein




3. PLAY & DANCE WITH OAKS.  Guys- don’t take life SO seriously.  HAVE FUN with those kiddos. Put on some music & DANCE around, be silly.  It makes life so much more enjoyable and it’s so good to interact and have fun with your kids.  

Oaks LOVES throwing balls down stairs!  It’s his favorite activity.  In fact, he loves it so much that we could do it all day long.  This is a win win for mama and Oaks because he has fun, while I am running up the stairs, leaning over to pick up the ball etc… It’s a work out! 






4.  GIRLS NIGHT/MAMA TIME.  OH my goodness, you don’t think you need a girls night out, until you’ve had one.  It’s nice to go and relax and talk about what girls talk about, without any distractions.  I find this so theraputic.  Once I am home, I miss my baby and ready to play and live in the moment with him without feeling so overwhelmed and frustrated.  What I always say is, you gotta take care of YOU in order to take care of them.



5. SOCIAL MEDIA BREAKS/NATURE WALK.  I talked about this in THIS POST here, and it’s helped me out so much lately. Take a break from social media for a few hours at least, everyday.  This will help you to live in the moment and not feel so drained from the “comparing train”.  Save that energy to be with your family, and use that energy towards something more positive everyday.  Like going on a walk with your family and living it at home, or going to the park and leaving it at home.   Just leave it somewhere and be outside in nature.   It feels so good to do so.



Go check out Hey Mama to see my full story, plus a work out video!