2 YEARS OLD

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And just like that my little angle is TWO.  Although it may look like we had a blast at this shoot… we had to take EXTREME measures to get him to crack a smile.  Haha THANKING Myself I had the idea pf bringing confetti glitter because that SAVED everything.  He wasn’t down to shoot in this cold weather (don’t blame him) also wasn’t down with holding balloons (which is odd for him) wasn’t down to smile, wasn’t down to run around to warm up.  He loves the mountains, so the kid was definitely cold.  I felt bad but we didn’t get up at 5am (well me) for nothing!  We shot at 8am, so I was surprised it was so cold.

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Once I pulled at the GLITTER.  It was INSTANT… I mean INSTANT happiness.  Keep scrolling and you’ll see the overjoyed little boy throwing his confetti glitter. ..

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Can it get ANY Cuter though??  I am so excited it turned out just perfectly.  How could I not post a million of these gems.  They’re priceless. I really narrowed down the photos for this post.  He was so happy with this glitter!  It was so great.

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OAKS OUTFIT is all ZARA

So when all else fails toddler moms… BRING GLITTER.. Confetti glitter might I add.  Go to any party store (zurchers, partyland etc..) and they’ll have it.

So I wanted to share this poem that couldn’t be more perfect for him turning two.  I post this on my IG, but I need to permanently post it here, so he can read it someday. Grab a tissue… you WILL shed a tear, or 10 haha.  

“Once a tiny newborn, now my little man.

You’re growing up to fast for me

please slow down if you can.

Each day I wish would linger, but they’re gone in a flash.

Each night I hold you tightly praying for this to last.  

My heart fills with pride with each new step you take, but watching

time pass quickly also causes ache.

So, I make the most I can 

of this time when you are small, 

cherishing each and every day

for they’re the best days after all.

And I pray when you are older, 

that you look back fondly, too

on the days when you were little an know how much I love you.”

I got this from the book I read called Positive Parenting.  HIGHLY recommend this book.  It’s definitely made me more patient with Oaks, and I feel that when I get angry or frustrated, I’ll go in the other room to calm down for a second.  Baby days are fleeting.  Life goes by fast.  There is no time to waist any minute being upset.  Enjoy it all mamas!

Thanks for taking the time to read my posts!  Have a great day!

xoxo,

SARA LYNN

 

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All that matters is right here in these photos.  Family is everything!  

For those that don’t know, I’m a step mom of 2, and a mom of 1.  Halle is 15 and Tyson is 17.  Tyson currently lives with us. 

I just want to open the conversation of being a step mom.  Who else is a step mom out there?

They’ve never lived with us full time, so that’s why I haven’t ever felt like it was my place to give you “step mom advice”.   It’s never felt right to me to put it out there and give you the advice you’re looking for.  But lately, now that one lives with us full time, I feel like I can finally start talking about it more.  Another reason why I haven’t said much is because I’ve only been a step mom for 6 years.  Relationships take time to build and some things I like to keep to myself that I don’t want to share with everyone.

Becoming a step mom was challenging at first.  I’ve had many people in my life who are step parents that gave me the advice at the VERY beginning and said “Don’t ever try and be their mother.  Always be their friend.”  Which rang so true because I never wanted them to feel like I was trying to step in and be the parent.  I wanted them to get to know me on their time, so they would be comfortable about me being around their dad.

I was only 21.  They were 8 and 10, so from the get go I’ve always acted like their friend.   They have a mom, so they don’t need me to be their mom.  This is why I believe it’s always been very easy to handle.  They are very good kids and have amazing parents.  I love their mom.  Always be civil for the kids.  Don’t be bitter or jealous.  It’s not right for the kids involved.  It’s so important to all get along, and even get together for the kids when you can.  

The reason I feel more comfortable about talking about this is because my parents both got married in the last few years, so I now can see the place that Halle and Tyson were in.  Granted, I’m a lot older and moved out, but I can only imagine how younger kids feel when their parents get remarried and have to get used to someone else that isn’t their parent. 

Put yourself in their shoes, and try not to overstep your boundaries.  Relationships take time to build.  My advice would be to take time to get to know the kids.  Take them out to lunch or shopping, find out what activities they like and take them to do that, so you have time to bond with them on your own.   Be their friend and someone they can trust.  Telling them what to do, isn’t my thing– they have parents to do that.  If they live in your home, things are different and you’re aloud to tell them to follow your rules.  But like I said before, they’ve never lived with me until now.  Tyson who is 17 has lived with us for almost a year now.  I don’t tell him what to do, but I do expect him to do his chores and be respectful.  But would my outlook be a little different if they lived with us full time? Yes probably.  But this is my personal situation.

I had most of you ask me to write a post about this, and one thing that was asked a lot was, how do you make time for you and TJ?  That is easy for us because we don’t have them full time, but just like any relationship you need to take time to spend time with each other once a week. Designate a night that works for both of you, find a sitter and go out and be with each other, talk with each other, put your phones away and just be you two again.  

This is a subject that I feel I can talk about now.  I wasn’t comfortable speaking about it until now.  Some things are untold and should be kept private.  These are just MY personal feelings and advice.  Everyones situation is different, but I wanted to share mine with you and what I’ve taken away and learned from it.  You don’t have to take my advice.  I’m not telling anyone what to do, and I never am telling anyone what to do when I share posts.  I’m simply sharing my experience and tips.  You can read my advice and apply it, or not.  Completely up to you!  None of this is right or wrong.  Everyone’s family and their situation is different.  

But Oaks just loves them SO much.  It’s so much fun to watch them together!  He especially has really loved Tyson since he’s around more and babysits him.

With all this said, who has a similar situation? Are any of you step parents? Comment below!  Lets chat.

Have a good weekend!

xoxo,

SARA LYNN