MOM GUILT MOMENT

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20 (1)BALANCING WORK/MOM LIFE IS NO JOKE.  This post is going to be super raw and real.  This year I’m going to do my best at sharing all the real stuff with you.  It goes SO beyond what you guys are seeing.  I’m very open with you all, but of course I’m not going to share everything.  

BALANCING WORK LIFE/ MOM LIFE IS THE MOST CHALLENGING THING I’VE EVER DONE.  TODAY IS ONE OF THOSE DAYS I JUST FEEL LIKE I’M NOT BEING A PRESENT MOM.  Some days I feel like I’ve got it all handled aka super mom.   YES I TIME BLOCK, which has been so helpful, and yes it’s very efficient way to get it done, but some days come crashing down on me.  Those are the days when Oaks need me the most, then I have deadlines and I’m all stressed out.  It’s just very hard to do both.  Being a mom is a lot of work. It’s a full time job.   You all know this!

I LOVE HIM SO MUCH IT HURTS.  Today, is just one of those days I feel extremely overwhelmed and I feel like I’m not there for him, or being present enough.   

I WANT TO DO BOTH.  Thats the thing, I’m very very grateful for everything I have.  I love what I do so much, but I love being a mom more of course.  I’ve found ways to do both, but like I said, it’s one of those days!  Mom guilt is a real thing.  We can be supermom all week long, and then when it comes time to leave them overnight for a girls night, or leave them even longer, you feel like a bad mom.  Then you start to get anxiety of something bad happening to them while you’re gone.  My lord, talk about HEAD TRIP.  Do you guys feel me?  

BEING A MOM IS A HEAD TRIP.   RIGHT??   None of us know what the hell we’re doing. We think we do, and then some other problem arrises and your basically back to square one.    We’re all just doing the best we know how, and learn how along this motherhood journey/crazy ride.  As Oaks grows older the more fun it keeps getting, but at the same time… it gets a little more challenging.  As he learns, grows and starts to understand things more.   Understanding they love sugar, but you have to teach them that it isn’t good for you all the time, and then they get upset and throw tantrums… I mean the list goes on and on.   Don’t hit people, don’t throw that cup full of water, don’t flush toys down the toilet etc, etc, etc…!

Maybe all those things are boys things too.  Every child is different! SO PS NEVER JUDGE A MOM.  Anyways, what I wanted this to be about is sharing my story, and the hard things that go through my head everyday.  I know you guys feel me and I want you to know that it goes so beyond just pretty pictures.  Oaks is shitting his pants daily, I’ve got shit on my hands, he throws everything in our house,  I’m in my work out/sweats most days, (sometimes they might have crusty oatmeal on them.. you never know), no make up, and running around trying to keep things clean (I put that on myself because I’m a clean freak), cook dinner, get my work done, all while trying to be there and watch Oaks grow up.  MAN.  SHITS HARD, but my hell don’t we love them so much?  I cry all the time because the love I feel hurts so much.  

Being a mom IS THE BEST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME.  It’s helped me find my purpose in life, it’s taught me so many life lessons, patience, time management, being a good wife, cooking/experimenting yummy healthy meals etc.   I love sharing it all with you, and being there for you too.  The community that we’ve all created here is incredible!

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TOPSHOP JEANS I LOVE- HERE, HERE, HERE, HERE

MY TANK / PLAID BUTTON UP / BOOTS 

OAKS CLOTHES- ALL ZARA

Love you all!  Have a good day!

xox,

SARA LYNN

MOTHERHOOD MONDAY: TIME BLOCKING

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TOP & BOTTOMS: OUTDOOR VOICES & CUTE HERE & HERE / NIKES CUTE HERE & HERE

OAKS OUTFIT: ALL ZARA

In the business I am in, it’s constant screen time.  I’m either on my phone or a computer.  I’m sure a lot of you can relate to this.  Over the past couple weeks I’ve noticed a difference in myself & how it’s affected everything.  As I’ve become busier, as Oaks becomes busier and is constantly learning and growing.  I feel that I’ve got two HUGE responsibilities.  For 1 making sure that I can be a good example to Oaks, and to help him learn and grow the best I can.  And 2 –help support my family, by following my dreams and what I LOVE, which is sharing all my tips for you guys, and helping you all live happy and healthy lives.   

So back to my reasoning on what I’ve noticed.  I’ve noticed a difference in my behavior.  Getting angry a lot,  feeling very overwhelmed and anxious… so I decided to put a stop to whatever is making me feel like this.  AND THAT IS MY PHONE.  I am in constant GO MODE.  I love what I do so much and LOVE talking with all of you so much.  I just get anxious because I want to respond to everyone, all while creating great content, but then I have a toddler that needs me 24/7.    I can’t have him trying to get my attention while I’m constantly on my phone.  Can you imagine if you couldn’t talk & you’re trying to get some food or a drink, but they aren’t listening because they’re distracted by their phone?  Annoying right.  

So what I’ve been doing is time blocking my day where I get my work done, answer any questions you have and talk with you for a certain amount of time.  Then I will time block my time with Oaks, which is morning before his nap & after his nap.  This is time I put my phone in the other room and leave it there.   THEN on Sundays I turn my phone completely off from 3pm- ON.  Don’t turn it back on until Monday morning.   This has helped me so much and helped me learn to live in the moment all while getting my work done when I time block.  It’s a WIN WIN.  It’s so affective and I get more done in the gap I time block, rather than trying to get it done in spurts all day feeling stressed out with a toddler at my feet.  

I was so inspired by this article on “The Powerful influence of Secondhand screen time on a Childs Brain”   This was huge eye opener for me, and realized I needed to change something.  I want what’s best for Oaks, and feel so bad for the times I am “to busy” to play.   Mom guilt was in FULL force when I read this article.  I just wanted to share it with you guys too, because I know I needed to hear it.  We live in a world of constant distraction and constant stimulation!  It’s nice to actual set it down and live in the moment, rather than thinking about how this person said this, what you need to get done, where you need to be at this time, how you need to respond to that text/email.. the list goes on.  It’s stressful!  

Our babies & kids need us!  Lets give them our full attention when the time is needed.  They grow up so quickly.   We don’t want to let their lives pass by and wonder where we were during those important stages of life.  They matter, and the quality time we spend with them matters.  It’s so important for their growth and their future adulthood.    

That phone call, text, email, DM, snapchat whatever it may be… can wait. 🙂

Hope you loved this!  I am going to be doing “Motherhood Monday”  and talk about motherhood every Monday, so send me your suggestions if you have any my way!  Would love to know what you want to hear about.

Have a great week!

xoxo,

Sara Lynn