BALANCING WORK/MOM LIFE IS NO JOKE. This post is going to be super raw and real. This year I’m going to do my best at sharing all the real stuff with you. It goes SO beyond what you guys are seeing. I’m very open with you all, but of course I’m not going to share everything.
BALANCING WORK LIFE/ MOM LIFE IS THE MOST CHALLENGING THING I’VE EVER DONE. TODAY IS ONE OF THOSE DAYS I JUST FEEL LIKE I’M NOT BEING A PRESENT MOM. Some days I feel like I’ve got it all handled aka super mom. YES I TIME BLOCK, which has been so helpful, and yes it’s very efficient way to get it done, but some days come crashing down on me. Those are the days when Oaks need me the most, then I have deadlines and I’m all stressed out. It’s just very hard to do both. Being a mom is a lot of work. It’s a full time job. You all know this!
I LOVE HIM SO MUCH IT HURTS. Today, is just one of those days I feel extremely overwhelmed and I feel like I’m not there for him, or being present enough.
I WANT TO DO BOTH. Thats the thing, I’m very very grateful for everything I have. I love what I do so much, but I love being a mom more of course. I’ve found ways to do both, but like I said, it’s one of those days! Mom guilt is a real thing. We can be supermom all week long, and then when it comes time to leave them overnight for a girls night, or leave them even longer, you feel like a bad mom. Then you start to get anxiety of something bad happening to them while you’re gone. My lord, talk about HEAD TRIP. Do you guys feel me?
BEING A MOM IS A HEAD TRIP. RIGHT?? None of us know what the hell we’re doing. We think we do, and then some other problem arrises and your basically back to square one. We’re all just doing the best we know how, and learn how along this motherhood journey/crazy ride. As Oaks grows older the more fun it keeps getting, but at the same time… it gets a little more challenging. As he learns, grows and starts to understand things more. Understanding they love sugar, but you have to teach them that it isn’t good for you all the time, and then they get upset and throw tantrums… I mean the list goes on and on. Don’t hit people, don’t throw that cup full of water, don’t flush toys down the toilet etc, etc, etc…!
Maybe all those things are boys things too. Every child is different! SO PS NEVER JUDGE A MOM. Anyways, what I wanted this to be about is sharing my story, and the hard things that go through my head everyday. I know you guys feel me and I want you to know that it goes so beyond just pretty pictures. Oaks is shitting his pants daily, I’ve got shit on my hands, he throws everything in our house, I’m in my work out/sweats most days, (sometimes they might have crusty oatmeal on them.. you never know), no make up, and running around trying to keep things clean (I put that on myself because I’m a clean freak), cook dinner, get my work done, all while trying to be there and watch Oaks grow up. MAN. SHITS HARD, but my hell don’t we love them so much? I cry all the time because the love I feel hurts so much.
Being a mom IS THE BEST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME. It’s helped me find my purpose in life, it’s taught me so many life lessons, patience, time management, being a good wife, cooking/experimenting yummy healthy meals etc. I love sharing it all with you, and being there for you too. The community that we’ve all created here is incredible!
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Love you all! Have a good day!
Oh girl I feel your pain. Not sure if you want unsolicited advice, but I went through the same frustrating pooping pants thing with my little girl that I just have to share what helped me…because it’s so infuriating and degrading cleaning crap filled pants at home,at the store, even strangers houses (yes that happened) when you know your kid knows how to use the toilet.
But things that helped me were 1. The chiropractor, (don’t worry it’s a lot more gentle with kids not the same as when adults go lol) because I was told that when their sacrum gets out of alignment it messes with the nerves involving bowel and bladder control. Another huge one is that (i researched) kids bathroom habits and attitudes get weird if they’re feeling insecure. Every kid is different when it comes to this, but for my girl quality time is her love language. So to help that I would just stop everything and take 10 to 30 minutes or an entire day at times to just focus on her…just holding her, talking with her, playing with her. And crazy but I would notice differences! Buh i just feel your frustration. Good luck.
Hey! Thank you so much for your tips! I really appreciate this so much. I’m going to try those things!
I feel mom guilt too when I have to leave my fur babies at home multiple times a day!
Right! Its hard!
Wow. Thanks so much. It’s nice to know that we’re not alone. I have to stop sometimes and remind myself to live in the moment.
Hey girl! Thank you for reading it. Its always a good reminder!
This is so REAL!!! I definitely needed to read this. Finding the balance is so hard. First and foremost you want to be there for your kids, but sometimes everything hits you all at once and it feels like it’s all you can do to not just sit and cry. This week has been so challenging for me with early morning meetings. My husband has been so sweet and supportive getting our son ready the last couple mornings and dropping him off at Daycare. But talk about MOM GUILT!! I get home and all I want to do is sit and play with him because I have missed him so much it hurts! We all are just doing our best and hope that it’s good enough. I love my little family so much and I’m so blessed for all I have. Some days are harder than others, but we push through and in the end all is well 🙂 Thanks for the read!!
Awe thank you Shaye! Totally agree with you! It’s all so hard! Thank you for this!