A little ice cream never hurt anyone.  

I get a lot of DM’s and questions on if I “cheat” or “you eat so healthy, do you ever have anything bad?”  My answer is always, OF COURSE.  In order to achieve goals and have a balanced life, you must splurge from time to time, or else you’ll go crazy.  There is a big difference between being in such a strict crazy diet, that you feel like you want to eat an ENTIRE IN AND OUT STORE,  to choosing between healthier options from meal to meal, prepping and planning so that you know you’ll stay on track.  And then if you feel like you want something, HAVE IT.   I’m not saying have a milkshake and cookie every day, I’m just saying reward yourself, but don’t overdo it.  Its when we don’t reward ourselves that we overdo it when we actually fall off the band wagon.

Then, you want to know what happens when you do that? You feel like complete shit and a complete failure. I’ve been there time and time and TIME again.  But guess what?  You want to know something I’ve learned from it all.   You aren’t a failure at all. You’re learning and growing and the only way to learn and grow from that, is to actually learn how shitty it makes you feel and avoid it.   Planning ahead of time, choosing wisely.  If you count macros, fit a cookie in if you have to.  My point in this whole post is to have a bite of something or have that chocolate if you’re feeling it.  Sometimes we just need to in order to stay on track.  

I’m at the point in my whole journey, that I feel that I can have a couple bites of a cookie on a Wednesday, and feel completely fine and continue eating healthy that day.  Its on occasions that I do, but I use to just let it DESTROY ME, and then I’d think… “WELP, I already fucked up (sorry mom) so I might as well keep going and eat more….  Can you IMAGINE where all of us would be, if we switched our attitude and mentality switched the flip to, “okay I’m going to start RIGHT NOW”  Instead of “Okay I’m going to just binge all weekend, and then start Monday”.  I’m saying all this because I’ve been there.  I’ve been the starve and binge girl, I’ve been the take exlax girl to poop her brains out to lose weight (haha im serious)… I’ve been the 1200 calories STRICTLY girl from Monday-Friday, and then BALLS TO THE WALL BINGE FEST all weekend long.  Then getting back at it, and feeling like shit until Wednesday and then doing it all over.  To strictly counting  Macros girl Monday-Sunday, but I’d have 3 cheat meals a weekend and I would go balls to the wall… way overdo it because I wasn’t eating enough during the week.  And I’m not saying counting macros is bad at all. It taught me SO many things.  I still do it sometimes.  I highly recommend it for sure.  Read more about it on my post “MIND VS YOU”

Do you see how it got better though, through those years?  It was all a learning experience, through trial and error, falling and picking myself back up again, trying new things, failing, then trying again and again.  It’s been such a journey and such a learning experience.  I’ve grown from starving and binging, to eating loads of greens, eating a balanced diet and having a chocolate when I want it, but not going crazy on it.  I eat when I’m hungry and DON’T OVERDO IT.  I caps that because when you overdo it and put more fat into your body that you’re going to burn off, you WILL gain weight.   

So balance it all. Balance and consistency are my two key words to success.  Find your journey, find what works for you, do what feels good to you.  Experience new things, try it out, eat carbs, but the good ones, stay away from sweets as much as you can, don’t tell yourself you cant have something, or you’ll want it more.

The whole point isn’t about weight, its about how you feel, how you treat yourself at the end of the day.  Its about your relationships, marriage, motherhood etc.  When we feel our best, we look our best and can treat others the best.  

I wanted to share this post because I took Oaks out to Ice Cream on a Thursday and had 2-3 bites and didn’t feel shame at all, I actually didn’t want more of it and felt fine just having those bites.  I also didn’t tell myself I had to go work it off either.  I enjoyed this moment with Oaks and enjoyed those bites.  











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Have a great weekend!









What did I even get done today?  As I say to myself 80% of my days since becoming a new mother. The first year was like this a lot, the second year I’ve been able to do more, but the first two years of his life and becoming a mom, have been the biggest learning experience of balancing all things.

The thing is, as a new mom we aren’t going to get much done.  Thats just the reality of it. We won’t get anything done that can be crossed off our huge list of TO DO’S.  Laundry, dishes, errands etc.. 

But really all we do is respond patiently to hunger cues, cries, whines, teaching our baby how to navigate through this complex crazy emotional raw world we live in.  Thats all. 

Learning how to be a mom. 

Learning how to breastfeed.

Learning what cries mean.

Learning how to be a good wife after becoming a new mom.

Learning what patience really means.

Learning what true exhaustion really means.

Learning what to feed your baby.

Learning how to teach good behavior.

Learning how to sleep train.



We’re teaching this tiny little helpless person all about the world.  The most important parts of the world.  What it means to be loved, what it means to treat people nicely, what it means to be connected with your family.  Giving them they love they need to survive in this crazy world. But thats all.

Your baby is stretching and growing into this new body, and you’re too.  Your baby will grow and meet milestones, and you will feel so accomplished and proud to be this babies mom.  But to the untrained eye, most of this work, will look like nothing at the end of the day.  But we know better.   Give, give, give, and give some more.  There is no greater task than doing “nothing” all day, and tomorrow and the next day. 

Close your eyes and measure your day by laughs, sounds, smiles  and feelings.  Don’t measure it by tasks, or how “productive” you were.  Measure it by how often you got to hold your baby, see your baby smile for the first time, laugh or kick, or got excited to see you.  Those are the moments to cherish and hold close to your hearts.  You won’t remember the times you had a pile of laundry, unmade bed, or errands to run.  Those can wait.  These moments pass by and never return.  Soak them up.

You’ll never look back and think, “I wish I would’ve done the dishes instead of watching my baby giggle or just snuggle my baby” or “i should’ve put her down to make dinner earlier”.   

The love you feel for this tiny person, is so intense that you can’t even put it into words.  Soak in all the feelings and really live in the moment.  These past two years with my Oaks have gone by so fast.  Baby days are fleeting.  I soak up any chance I get to snuggle or hold him.  I don’t care if he’s almost 40lbs (I think) close to it haha.  I will hold him until I can’t anymore.  

The first two years are very much like this.  You will think what did I even get done today?  But always remember this and stop thinking that.  These are the hardest days of your life, but yet we feel this way.  All moms are amazing.  This part sort of gets unnoticed, but just remember you’re creating a foundation of love and trust , one that will help your parenting compass.  

I was so inspired by THIS ARTICLE on becoming a new mom, I had to share it with you!  Can’t take all the credit but I felt it was so important to spread this message since I know, most of you are new moms.  

Hope you loved this!  I shed a tear or two writing it.  Oh, the emotions of motherhood! 🙂

Have a great day!