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YOU TIME

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We all know when it’s time for a break, a release from motherhood, you time, girls night, or at least I know the signal that rings “GET OUT” haha.    Whenever I’m starting to feel slightly like I’m going to lose my mind, and my patience runs thin, or I raise my voice at Oaks (which I feel bad for always)  I KNOW it’s time for a break.  By break I mean, alone time from it, getting away for even an hour.  Something that makes you feel like you again.  Don’t lose yourself in this motherhood “game”.  You gotta take care of you.  If you don’t take care of you, you will start to see a pattern of anger, annoyance, irritability etc… I know this because I’ve dealt with it a lot.  Sometimes I feel guilty of wanting a break.  But you gotta do it. 

Guess what? It makes us a better mom, and then we can ACTUALLY live in the moment and ENJOY it.  Not looking at the clock like “ugh I’ve only been playing with him for 10 mins” haha.  You know what I mean.  Motherhood is so exhausting.  Here are some things I do that keep me SANE, and more calm and ready to TAKE ON MOTHERHOOD every day.  Find a babysitter and do it for yourself.

  1. Go out & chat with a friend, or family member- someone who makes you feel better, and makes you feel like you again.  
  2. Gym time- I like to mix up my routine.  I don’t always love working out from home.  Breaking away & getting into a different environment helps me feel human and normal in society haha.
  3. Go to Starbucks and read a book.  I always like to read something that motivates me to do better, and self improvement books.  A book that has changed my life is “THE SUBTLE ART OF NOT GIVING A F*CK” & “THE WAR OF ART“. Or I will just go on my computer and get work done. 
  4. Sister time- my sister is my best friend and soulmate haha.  I can’t live without her.  She inspires me to be a better person.  She is an amazing person and I’m so grateful to have such a positive soul in my life!  
  5. Go shopping- even if its grocery shopping!  But do it by yourself!

Take time for yourself!  Be nice to yourself, and be a little selfish from time to time.  Because it really helps us to NOT be selfish when it comes to our kiddos.  What do you moms do to break away everyday?  Please share!

 

 

Have a great day!

xoxo,

SARA LYNN

MOM KNOWS BEST

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MOTHERHOOD MONDAY- WHATS BEEN ON MY MIND….

heres the thing.  It’s funny that as moms we think society (other moms) are judging us HARDCORE when there are “rules” to follow; such as weaning from the bottle at a certain age, weaning from the binki at a certain age, weaning from the boob at a certain age.  Or taking away a blankey or stuffed animal at a certain age.  Etc… etc… you get it.

Listen, what I’ve learned these last two years about motherhood is there ARE no rules.  There are no “certain ages” you have to wean or take things away.  Your rules are YOUR rules.  YOU know as a mom, when it’s the right time to do something.  You know as a mom when it’s the right time to wean, sleep train, eat this, don’t eat that etc..  

It’s funny, about a month ago I was SO afraid to let Oaks have the bottle when I was filming on my IG stories, because I was afraid of what people might think since he’s 22 months (today actually) but I’m like …ya know what? IM THE MOM. I decide whats right for him.  And if the bottle sucking is going to sooth him & be the babysitter while I take some breaths, then SO BE IT.  Listen, I know as much as the next mom, how shitty it’s going to be weaning.  But that doesn’t mean you have to do it when someone else says you do.   

Every child is different.  Oaks weaned himself from the boob.  Some kids just stop.  Some kids are probably a flipping nightmare weaning.  Sleep training was a nightmare for about 3 days and now its bliss forever.  Sometimes he’s got a few hiccups in the road, but he sleeps like a dream and has since he was 6 months old.  

I know there are moms, who think “wow, it’s time to wean… don’t you think?”  because I was totally so judgmental about stuff like that... BEFORE I HAD OAKS (Crazy right?) who am I to judge haha.  We all do it, but when stop doing that and let people live their lives, do what’s right for them, then we feel better.   It’s not up to someone else how you raise your child.  

Point is.  WE all think differently, we all parent differently.  Lets all be nice to each other.  After all, MOM KNOWS BEST 🙂

On another note, it’s great to get advice and listen to what other moms do,  in fact, I love hearing what other moms do! It doesn’t mean you have to follow what someone else does.   at the end of the day YOU DO YOU. You do what feels right to YOU, and not someone else’s rulebook of motherhood.  The whole point of this post is to help get out there is no one is perfect. There isn’t just 1 thing that works for all children & families.  

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Anyways, switching lanes here.  Oaks is 22 months.  I CANNOT BELIEVE IT.  he’s starting to feel less like a baby now and way more toddler.  I am having hard time accepting that.   He’s got the cutest personality, and loves to throw EVERYTHING.   He gets so much excitement from watching it fall, he holds his arms up funny like he’s twitching haha.  You know what I’m talking about if you watch my IG.    He loves all balls.  I am going to do a ball theme for his birthday!   He says “maaa”, “dirt”, “kiii”, “daaaa”, “shiii” (yep, like shit), “baaa” ,”hiii” and lots and lots of jibbers like he thinks he’s talking clear.  He loves watching movies lately.  The Good Dinosaur (always) Moana, and the new fav is Smurfs.  Loves puppy pals, and bubble guppies.  Loves bubbles and pushing things around.

 Loves water & throwing rocks in the water.  Loves reading and runs really really fast.  Throws like a pro, and makes the silliest faces ever.   He’s getting a little sassy, but so sweet.  Very well natured and been the best baby for us!  We love him SOOOO much.  Happy 22 months to my sweet boy!  

Have a great day! 

xoxo,

SARA LYNN