What did I even get done today? As I say to myself 80% of my days since becoming a new mother. The first year was like this a lot, the second year I’ve been able to do more, but the first two years of his life and becoming a mom, have been the biggest learning experience of balancing all things.
The thing is, as a new mom we aren’t going to get much done. Thats just the reality of it. We won’t get anything done that can be crossed off our huge list of TO DO’S. Laundry, dishes, errands etc..
But really all we do is respond patiently to hunger cues, cries, whines, teaching our baby how to navigate through this complex crazy emotional raw world we live in. Thats all.
Learning how to be a mom.
Learning how to breastfeed.
Learning what cries mean.
Learning how to be a good wife after becoming a new mom.
Learning what patience really means.
Learning what true exhaustion really means.
Learning what to feed your baby.
Learning how to teach good behavior.
Learning how to sleep train.
BUT THATS ALL WE DO. JUST BECOMING A MOTHER IS ALL. 🙂
We’re teaching this tiny little helpless person all about the world. The most important parts of the world. What it means to be loved, what it means to treat people nicely, what it means to be connected with your family. Giving them they love they need to survive in this crazy world. But thats all.
Your baby is stretching and growing into this new body, and you’re too. Your baby will grow and meet milestones, and you will feel so accomplished and proud to be this babies mom. But to the untrained eye, most of this work, will look like nothing at the end of the day. But we know better. Give, give, give, and give some more. There is no greater task than doing “nothing” all day, and tomorrow and the next day.
Close your eyes and measure your day by laughs, sounds, smiles and feelings. Don’t measure it by tasks, or how “productive” you were. Measure it by how often you got to hold your baby, see your baby smile for the first time, laugh or kick, or got excited to see you. Those are the moments to cherish and hold close to your hearts. You won’t remember the times you had a pile of laundry, unmade bed, or errands to run. Those can wait. These moments pass by and never return. Soak them up.
You’ll never look back and think, “I wish I would’ve done the dishes instead of watching my baby giggle or just snuggle my baby” or “i should’ve put her down to make dinner earlier”.
The love you feel for this tiny person, is so intense that you can’t even put it into words. Soak in all the feelings and really live in the moment. These past two years with my Oaks have gone by so fast. Baby days are fleeting. I soak up any chance I get to snuggle or hold him. I don’t care if he’s almost 40lbs (I think) close to it haha. I will hold him until I can’t anymore.
The first two years are very much like this. You will think what did I even get done today? But always remember this and stop thinking that. These are the hardest days of your life, but yet we feel this way. All moms are amazing. This part sort of gets unnoticed, but just remember you’re creating a foundation of love and trust , one that will help your parenting compass.
I was so inspired by THIS ARTICLE on becoming a new mom, I had to share it with you! Can’t take all the credit but I felt it was so important to spread this message since I know, most of you are new moms.
Hope you loved this! I shed a tear or two writing it. Oh, the emotions of motherhood! 🙂
Have a great day!